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GRN Bible Picture Clipart CD





The Bible Picture Clipart CD contains all the pictures from the “Good News“, “Look, Listen & Liveand The Living Christ picture series.

There are a total of nearly 300 different Bible pictures.

The images are in two formats:

1. Black & White line drawings

These TIFF format images can be printed up to A4 size at 300 DPI.

These are suitable for creating worksheets, or illustrating black & white Bibles and booklets.

2. Full Colour images

These JPEG format images are brightly coloured 900 x 600 pixels resolution.

These are suitable for use on computer in the form of slideshows, powerpoint presentations, and even simple videos. They are also suitable to print up to A8 size at 300 DPI.

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Higher resolution colour images are also available from GRN Australia for particular purposes such as printing in larger formats, creation of DVDs with extensive panning and zooming, and production of slides.

Ordering

The Bible Picture Clipart CD is A$29 including shipping anywhere in the world from GRN Australia (order online here) or from many other GRN centres.

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The “Good News” audio-visual: This audio visual set has 40 pictures to present an overview of the Bible from Creation to Christ. It covers the salvation message and basic teaching on the Christian life. It is available in more than 1300 languages.

“The Living Christ” audio-visual: This comprehensive audio visual uses 120 pictures to give a more in depth view of the life and ministry of Jesus. It is a newer program, and currently available in just a few languages.

The “Look, Listen & Live” audio-visual:This set of eight programs of 24 pictures each is excellent for systematic evangelism and Christian teaching. The series gives studies of Old Testament characters, the life of Jesus, and the young church. It is available in hundreds of languages.

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Alin Loloș și Adi Martin – Stația de Metrou Constantin Brâncoveanu București

Published on Jun 22, 2013

Alin Loloș și Adi Martin – Stația de Metrou Constantin Brâncoveanu București
joi 20 iunie 2013
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Doamne, într-o lume care luptă împotriva cărnii și sângelui, eu vreau să lupt împotriva căpeteniilor, domniilor, stăpânitorilor acestui veac și împotriva duhurilor răutății aflate în locurile cerești. Dacă lumea iubește minciuna și se încinge strâns cu ea, eu vreau ca mijlocul meu să fie încins cu Adevărul ! Dacă oamenii din România vor să se îmbrace cu platoșa neprihănirii personale, eu vreau să iau platoșa neprihănirii lui Hristos. Chiar dacă cei din jur se încalță cu râvna evangheliei diluate care le afundă picioarele în nisipul depresiei, eu vreau să mă încalț cu râvna Evangheliei Păcii, care îmi ține picioarele pe Stânca Mântuirii. Când alții poartă cu mândrie coiful tradițiilor și datinilor, eu vreau să port cu umilință coiful mântuirii și să lovesc cu sabia Duhului în această armură a diavolului ! A.M.

 

 

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Alin Loloș și Adi Martin – Stația de Metrou Eroii Revoluției București

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ALIN BLAINE S-A POCAIT

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ALIN LOLOS FOST BLAINE -LA SALA PALATULUI -BUCURESTI -19 IUNIE

 

  Mesaj Alin Loloş – Sala Palatului Bucureşti (19 iunie 2013)

Published on Jun 23, 2013

1 Corinteni 2:2: ”Căci n-am avut de gând să ştiu între voi altceva decât pe Isus Hristos, şi pe El răstignit.”

Coloseni 1:28: ”Pe El Îl propovăduim noi, şi sfătuim pe orice om, şi învăţăm pe orice om în toată înţelepciunea, ca să înfăţişăm pe orice om desăvârşit în Hristos Isus.

1 Corinteni 1:29: ”Iată la ce lucrez eu şi mă lupt după lucrarea puterii Lui care lucrează cu tărie în mine”.

Slava lui Dumnezeu pentru aceasta Minune,Marturie si Mesaj !


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Principles and Practices of Biblical Parenting

Do we want good children or godly children? This question lies at the heart of our true desire for our children.
In the midst of a secular society, it is easy to leave God out of the training of our children. For any child to be a “good” child he must be raised by God’s truth, even if the parents do not acknowledge they are doing so. They enjoy His world, His gifts such as life and bodies but do not give any thanks to Him. This is the mark of the secular state that asserts it can run on its own.
We want godly children who know the principles of good living but also who know God Himself. We desire for our children to have a love and passion for God that overflows in a love for mankind. Without Jesus Christ our ability to forgive, have compassion and to love is greatly limited. In Christ we have the ability to have Christ live His life in us.
Our goals for our children must go far beyond what we can do in our own strength, which only feeds our pride. We must train our children to trust God and live a supernatural life in which they walk in His Spirit. There are many voices telling us how to parent, but the majority of them reject God’s purpose for our children. Because many Christian families have bought into secular thinking, their children are living as immorally as the society around them.
Now is the time to change the course of history through our own families. God can do great and mighty things through a small number of families that live by His great and glorious promises and purposes. In this session, we will first focus on God’s principles for raising our children from Deuteronomy 6 and later conclude by mentioning some practical points on how we can implement these life-changing principles.

A. Observations from Deuteronomy 6:1-9

Principle #1: Establish and live by God’s standards (Deuteronomy 6:1)

Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the judgments which the LORD your God has commanded me to teach you, that you might do them in the land where you are going over to possess it. (Deuteronomy 6:1)
In the chapter before this, the Ten Commandments were clearly given to the people again. God is holy; therefore we must do things His way in order to please Him. Therefore, we must know what the Lord says and then actually obey Him by doing just what He says. Moses taught the Israelites God’s commands in order help them live out godly lives among the heathen nations. Our standards must come from God’s standards. As these commands have been taught to us, we need to teach them to others.

Principle #2: Pass it on to next generations (Deuteronomy 6:2)

So that you and your son and your grandson might fear the LORD your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged. (Deuteronomy 6:2)
God wants us to think in terms of generations. We are not only to think of our children but our children’ s children. The ‘you,’ ‘your sons,’ and ‘your grandson’ reflect three generations. What we do with our lives greatly impacts the lives of the next generations. The ‘fear of the LORD’ is the conscious presence of God, which influences our lives. Many people live their daily life as if God has nothing to say about how they should live.Principles and Practices of Biblical Parenting
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When God’s Word has minimum impact on what a person does, we can say he is secularized even though he might be religious. The ‘ fear of God’ is no longer in his life. Our purpose is not just to pass down the LORD’s commands but that our children might fear the LORD and keep His commands. Knowledge of His commands is insufficient. Knowledge must be translated into life change.
If a generation only has knowledge of His commands and no love for His ways (this is where Christianity has degenerated into a mere religion), then the next generation will depart from those commands.
Tracing Zeal of Christians through three generations
How do we avoid this generational departure? Parents must pass on the fear of the LORD to their children and children’s children. The Christian parent must do everything to pass on the heart and passion for the Lord as well as knowledge of the Lord’s commands.
On the positive side, if we live out godly lives before our children, they will most likely pick up that passion. We must be careful to instruct them about who the Lord is and all about His ways. Neglect of this will lead to a next generation that has respect for our ways but no power.
If we live compromising lives, then we live as if we are already in the second generational stage. Our children will, for the most part, leave the Lord. They do not believe because we do not really believe. Genuine faith always touches our life’s priorities. Only a false religious faith permits a division between ‘belief’ and life. Our children look at the goodness of our lives rather than what we say. They are right. If we do not live by what we say, then they see only our hypocrisy. This produces sad and bitter lives.
Pause for Reflection: Are you excited about what God is doing in your life? If so, have you shared it with your children. If not, do you really expect your children’s zeal will be above yours?

Principle #3: Convinced of the need for God’ s blessing (Deuteronomy 6:3)

O Israel, you should listen and be careful to do it, that it may be well with you and that you may multiply greatly, just as the LORD, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey. (Deuteronomy 6:3)
God’s ways always bring the greatest blessing. To the degree our lives are shaped by His teaching, we are able to live by His high standards. When we carefully apply these teachings to our lives, then we see how God’s promises fill our lives. Part of this blessing is material blessing.1 Part of it is multiplication. God wants to increase what is good. Having many children is a blessing of our LORD, which should not be hindered.2
And He will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb (Deuteronomy 7:13).
We will either believe our welfare is dependent upon keeping God’ s Word or we will not. To the degree we obey, we will be blessed. Our goal should be to ‘run’ after His commands. Only in this way do we have a passionate love for God that would be worthy to transfer to the next generation.

Principle #4: Undivided loyalty to Yahweh (LORD) (Dt. 6:4-5)

Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the LORD is one! And you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. (Deuteronomy 6:4-5)
Priority of TimeSince the Lord is one, we must not divide our affections between Him and something else. If there were several gods, then our loyalty would be divided. Since He is one, all of our devotion, inspiration and strength must be used to do all that He says. His words take a priority in our lives. God is asking, even demanding, that we take all of our work, family, and personal plans and re-work them so that He becomes the center of our lives. A doctor, for example, should give up his occupation if he is required to do abortions. He should not murder. The commitment to life requires him to help not hurt people.
Jesus told us that we could only love Him or wealth (mammon) (Matthew 6:24). If a family worships money, then their decisions will be made with those prior commitments in mind. In the end, we will only prioritize one God. We need to commit to serving the LORD Yahweh as a family. This decision sets our family apart from others. This is important to communicate to our children.
Pause for Reflection: Is God your life priority? If things got real bad like Job, would you give up God?

Principle #5: Devoted to His Word (Deuteronomy 6:6)

And these words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. Deuteronomy (6:6)
We fool ourselves if we think that we can raise our children to become godly men and women without having a passion for God and His Word ourselves. His words must be on our heart. We can judge our commitment by discerning how much time we spend keeping God’ s Word fresh on our hearts and minds. When we do spend time in His Word, is it because we desire His Word or because we are obligated to. We do go through ups and downs in our spiritual life, but the real test is how much we really love God through all those times.
Pause for Reflection: How many times do you as the father meditate on God’s Word through the week?
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Principle #6: Committed to Teaching his sons (Deuteronomy 6:7)

And you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. (Deuteronomy 6:7)
There are two commands here. First, we are instructed to “teach them diligently to our sons.” This describes formal teaching. Secondly we are to “talk of” His ways. This is informal teaching.

Formal teaching

The father is responsible for diligently teaching his sons. Interestingly, we do not see God charging pastors, elders or Sunday School teachers to do this. We must, therefore, refuse any tendency to pass off our responsibility as fathers to formally teach our children. Instead, we are to embrace our responsibility as a charge from God. What are we to do as fathers?
We need to teach God’s Words diligently to our sons. The content of our instruction is God’ s words or commands. We need to teach them both the positive and negative commands. Since many of the commands are set within the contexts of interesting historical situations, we are also God communicates with children through the fathers.to recite those narratives. The Lord brings that ‘God-conscious’ perspective to our children through us as fathers. This in turn brings great blessing to our lives.
With a little observation of the typical Christian father, we can see why many children of Christian families go wayward. The fathers simply don’t teach their children. Some children have heard their fathers teach others but not themselves.
Actually, I myself didn’t get a hold of this truth until recently when I was pondering how my children were going to be any differently prepared to face the wild world out there than other children. It was then that I realized that though I personally discipled others, I did not disciple my own children one on one.
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I knew the advantage of personal discipleship but would not apply it to my own situation. I was humbled by my neglect of personally meeting with my two older daughters. I decided I would start meeting regularly with my oldest son and teach him God’s Word.
After I had understood more of the procedure and need, I expanded to meeting personally with each of my young children that can read.3 I did not totally neglect my older children. We have had family devotions each night since the beginning, but this personal formal input of God’s word into their lives has become a very important building time.
One of the greatest problems with this concept of family devotions or personal discipling of our child is that the father usually does not know God’s Word very well. It is to a father’ s shame if he does not love God and His Word. Their children will reject their empty religion because that is all it has become. If a father really loved God, then he would really love and study God’s Word and pass it on to his children.4

Another obstacle for fathers is the notion that they are not gifted teachers. In other words, they believe that only the few gifted teachers can teach. It is urgent that we reject this need for fathers to be gifted teachers to instruct their children. Let us ask what the Word of God asks of us fathers. Does He our Lord not teach us that we should love His Word and teach our sons? Yes. Then lets not let this notion of being a gifted teacher get in the way. If we expose ourselves regularly to God and His Word, then He Himself will give us things to teach. We can teach what He teaches us.
Along with this wrong notion is the thought that only those trained in seminaries can rightfully teach doctrine. This is nonsense. Again, it goes clearly against what we have learned from this charge to fathers. Fathers are responsible to teach their sons. Ephesians 4 actually tells us that pastors and teachers are to equip God’s people. This means that God charges pastors and teachers to exhort and instruct God’s people. Among them are many fathers. These fathers are then to instruct their children. Fathers are responsible to teach their own children. Every father has to work out this formal instruction. Without it the children will be missing out. We have chosen to home school. This gives us even more opportunities to instruct our children using God’s Word rather than secular curriculum.
Pause for Reflection: What formal teaching of God’s Word do you bring to your family as the father? How much time? Where? To whom?

Informal Teaching

And shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. (Deuteronomy 6:7).
This passage catches fathers off guard. Some fathers do have family devotions with their children, but many are too busy to spend any significant time engaging in worthwhile conversation with their sons.
This whole approach works only if the father really loves God with his whole heart, mind and with all his strength. This passion for God is normal. Anything else is backsliding. Yesterday, for example, my head was extremely congested with allergies. I hurt but my heart was joyful. When I lay down, I thought about my Lord and His love to me. Later I shared with my children how the Lord kept me from complaining or doubting His care for me during this time. We must share our life experiences with ourInformal Teaching has 4 openings for effective teaching. Deuteronomy 6 children. When should a father do this? The passage gives us four settings.
1. Sitting down in your house.
Some dads make themselves too busy watching television, surfing the web, and going to sports events to spend significant time with their children. Others have the time, but the Lord is not on their hearts. They will talk excitedly about some soccer match, some recent purchase or about some project that they are working on. Their main project should be to know God and His Word. This lack of passion becomes obvious to their sons and daughters. Their hearts go somewhere else but not to Lord. They are only doing what Dad does.
2. Walking somewhere (today driving or riding).
Often times the father listens to music or some radio show that distracts from conversation. The children love to talk and ask about things. Do you ask them about their day? Do you like to talk to them? They really like to talk to you.
3. Lying down (getting ready for bed).
In the old days, houses were smaller. Sometimes guys would sleep in one room while the girls in another. This provided a lot of opportunities to share. I remember some of my good conversations with our Dad happened when camping together. Just before going to sleep we talked a bit. If children have their own bedrooms, then the parent should pause and talk with each child before they go asleep. Recount the day a bit. Give them a hug and kiss.
4. Getting up (early in the morning).
The morning sets the pace and attitude of the day. The father should share some reflections from his morning devotions or say some statements that help the children properly look at each day. The father should be an early riser so that he can help encourage the family when they get up.
Everyday we face many situations through which the Lord wishes to teach us and then pass those lessons on to our children. We have moved our television to the third floor attic. No cable. They can barely see three stations. It does not distract from our times together downstairs. Mealtimes are another great opportunity to share about what one is learning. We must remind you that informal teaching is not to be the only kind of teaching. It must be a good companion to formal teaching.

Principle #7: Display God’ s Word (Deuteronomy 6:8-9)

And you shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. (Deuteronomy 6:8-9)
We surround ourselves with what we love. If we love God’s Word then it will be all around us. We can put scripture on our computer screens, walls, plaques, etc. We should throw away some of those old items that show our old treasures and replace them with our growing love of God’s Word. Throw away those Buddha statues and anything else associated with different religions. Take down those pictures of movie and sports idols. If pictures are depressing, replace them with one from Psalm 23. More than this memorize these verses with your children and learn to treasure them.
The best place to store God’s Word is in our heart. What is on our walls should only reflect what is in our hearts. We put scripture about our home not because it is mandatory but because that is what we like.
Pause for Reflection: What do you decorate your walls with? Would anyone know that you have a great love for God from walking in or around your home?
Summary
Dads need to rethink their calling from God. They are not just husbands; they are fathers. They need to lead and teach. It is from such verses as Deuteronomy 6 we understand the true importance of the family to a great society. When the family disintegrates, the society dies. When the family is strong and fathers take the lead, the society does well. Will we fathers begin to take our role seriously or let our children be drugged by modern teachings and be caught by the pull of the secular world culture? Our response to God’ s charge shows our answer.
Behold, I am going to send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and terrible day of the LORD. And he will restore the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the land with a curse. (Malachi 4:5-6)

B. Reflections on Family Devotions

Family devotions is a name for the structured time a family regularly gets together before the Lord. Although most people now seem to think more in terms of ‘cell’ groups, family devotions or the ‘family altar’ is the age old small group meeting. Families now are so small and people dispersed from their families, we need to create artificial group meetings. We have no problem with the later groups but they should again remind the father of the importance of formally teaching his children. The family must regularly group around the father to learn of his love and knowledge of God.
Like personal devotions, family devotions often have singing, memorizing and discussion of God’s Word, prayer and sharing. The more personally it is related to their lives, the more helpful the time is. We will not go into details on how to conduct family devotions but deal with some more concrete issues that parents of toddlers might have.

When do you start?

Devotions should begin before the children are born! That is right. At that time it will only be the husband and wife assuming no other relatives are present. Once the first child comes, the whole family passes through a transition time for about 3 months. It is important for devotions between the husband and wife to continue as much as possible even if it is a brief ten minutes. My wife and I personally pray and share each night as a couple. We don’t watch television but talk and pray. This does take a commitment of time but think of the benefits. We don’t fight. We are a harmonious couple. We love our marriage. We save a lot of time that would otherwise be spent in aggravation, worries, and fears.
When the child can sit up, it is time to start devotions with our child. My wife and I still meet separately though. We like to. We cannot share on the depth that is needed during family devotions. With our children, we need to carry on at a different level of conversation and focus.

Singing

We sing both simple children’s songs as well as old hymns. Little children love to join in even if they do not know the words. They clap or move their bodies. Before children can read, they can learn to sing hymns together. We simply need to train them. Repeat more often. Have them repeat some words after you. Their memories are fantastic.
If we find a child not singing (a bit older) a familiar song, it is not because they do not know the song, but because they are showing ‘quiet’ rebellion. They are choosing not to sing. If we want them to sing, then we should have them sing with us. They might need to be chastised otherwise their rebellious spirit spoils the worship atmosphere.

God’s Word

We want the children to learn God’ s Word. We read, quote, and sing God’ s Word. Our real purpose is to get us to think about what God’ s Word says. Some use books to help them such as Bible storybooks. Use those as extra reading material.
It is better to focus on a theme for a month. Memorize some appropriate verses. Discuss them. Read other applicable verses. With search programs on the web, one can do a search on patience (which we are doing this month) in a flash and have a whole list of passages to work on. We especially like the virtue theme calendar that gives us a Christian theme for each month for the whole family to work on.5 On a little different level, there are catechism questions and answers for children to memorize. We have preferred to discuss these doctrinal topics as they come up, but it is good to supplement and enrich what we know about God’ s Word.

Memorizing Verses

A child is capable of memorizing a great amount of scripture verses. It would be a shame if we did not believe this and act upon it. Sure the parents must memorize along with them, but this is okay. Why not get God’s Word in them early so it shapes them. They do not need to know its meaning. They will learn that later on.
Certainly it is up to the parent to decide what is best, but they can memorize chapters of appropriate verses along with choice ones. We usually review them at devotions time. Our children can quote Psalm 1, 23 and 100. This is easy for them (and harder for Dad whose memory is going!) Should we stop there? No. We keep going on and on. Here are some practical points.
Have a folder for each older child. Keep the verses printed out that the family has memorized together. We also keep the hymns we have learned together. Bilingual families can learn some in Chinese and some in English. Make it fun. I remember after learning Galatians 5:22-23, we would often go around each saying one word of the verses which would emphasize the fruit of the Spirit.
Pause for Reflection: What verses have your family learned so far? Which ones do you think they should know?

How do you get your child to sit still during devotions?

The time for prayer is the most difficult. But if we start early, then even that trouble is somewhat eliminated. For example, when the child is an infant the mother holds the baby’s hands and gives thanks before feeding the baby. Once in the highchair the same thing happens. During devotions, I always liked to take the youngest one and hold him or her in my lap and hold his hands. When the baby has learned to fold hands during prayer, they need to go through a time of keeping them folded. If they resist, we just go back to holding them again.
We cannot force a child to be quiet, but we can help them sit still. For example, toddlers will sit with Daddy or Mommy. When they are able to start wiggling around, I hold them tight in my crossed legs. Unlike church, we can ignore their baby sounds.

How do you pray?

This really depends on how old the child is. It is proper to teach children to confess their sins, ask God for help and encourage them to pray for others. We do encourage this but realize God cannot hear their prayers before they know Christ as their Lord and Savior. We, however, are praying with them and God does hear us. Prayer is a privilege for Christians.
We take prayer requests. The children are great at remembering special needs. We pray for missionaries. Make sure you have some missionary focus as a family. We never dare just pray for ourselves. The Lord wants to do greater things through us when we pray for others.
With many children, we take turns. With fewer children, it is fine for each to pray. In this case, we would have the father open and the mother close; the children pray in between. Children usually want to start praying around 6, sometimes earlier. Earlier on, we just take their hands and pray for them, “Thank you God for every good thing! Amen.”
Summary
Devotions can be shortened for nights when children are sick or tired. If you come home late, just pray for them with a hand on them while they are in bed. This is not a legalistic matter but one in which you can seek God’ s blessing on your family and instruct them in your love for God and His Word.

C. Thoughts on Spiritual Nurturing

Let’s now take a look at some other specific aspects of nurturing our family with spiritual teachings.

Praying for your Child

Each child is special. Each one has its own voice, facial shaping, body size, palm prints and even finger prints. We should have a special prayer for each child. The prayer is not magical; it is an earnest plea from the parent for the child to help the child to be all he or she should be. This prayer is a growing prayer. As we see the child grow, we are aware of different gifts and challenges that particular child will have in life. We need to sharpen our focus and prayers for that child.
Usually we see strengths and weaknesses in each child. We should encourage them and pray for them that they would overcome the sin and bodily weakness and fulfill God’s good plans. We specially equip them with verses we have memorized with them. As in most people, there usually is one predominant sin pattern in each person. As parents we need to realize that this is the child’s biggest enemy to becoming a godly person. Our prayers serve as their shield as long as we live.
By having such observations and prayers, we again are full of expectations that the child will be a godly person, full of the Spirit of Christ. We have found it helpful to focus on the name that we have given them, much like the scriptures do. What does it mean? Why were you inspired to give it to him or her? Pray for a godly fulfillment of that name.

The Mother’ s Role

Some wonder why Deuteronomy 6, Ephesians 6 and other passages address the father and his spiritual responsibility in bringing up the child before the Lord but do not mention the mother. This is because the father is the responsible one. We can see this in verse 4 by the special way fathers are addressed. Father’s are head of the home. We do also see, however, that he is not the only one active in shaping the child’ s life.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH. And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4)
In verse 1 we see that children are to obey their parents. There is no distinction between father and mother. This is reaffirmed in verse 2 in case we would have any doubts. Respect and honor are connected to commands and wishes. Generally we see the mother’s care for the child’s nurturing when small6, but the father must see to it that instruction in the Lord and the whole discipline process is implemented. The wife works with the husband to help implement his goals. The wife has special insight and ability to help the children. The good father knows this and works closely with his wife. Notice how the wife is expected to operate in the home.
That they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be dishonored. (Titus 2:4-5)
The children should gain a great experience of warmth and love from their mothers. This does not mean they do not chastise. Chastisement is a sign of love. Any child that gives a mother great difficulty should be told that his father will finish speaking to him upon his return. A wife, however, dare not pass all such rebukes and instructions on to the father. Surely the father does not have the advantage of the timing and understanding of the context to get the greatest advantage in training the child. A mother should be the main expression of tender love. She needs to remember this. Father and mother work together in harmony as one. We can understand a mother’s influence even more when we read the scriptures related to a Christian mother with an unbelieving husband.

Unbelieving Husband

In some marriages one is a Christian and one an unbeliever. Such believing mothers should not lose hope. A godly grandmother and mother raised Timothy. He became a great pastor in the early church.
For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois, and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well. (2 Timothy 1:5)
Later we read that Timothy got his understanding of the scriptures from them.
And that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. (2 Timothy 3:15)
This only confirms what Paul the apostle had confirmed in 1 Corinthians 7:14
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.
As long as the unbelieving husband (or wife) is willing to stay with the believing spouse, the believing spouse can have great impact on an otherwise lost child.

A Family Purpose

We need to think beyond just the goal of the child. As we look through the scriptures we find that God does great things through families. Children are seen as a multiplication or expansion of what the parents stand for. As Christian parents, we must reject a pure individualistic perspective and understand that God wants to perpetuate our ministry, vision, love, etc. through our children.
For example, if we see that a couple is hospitable, more than likely the children will learn to be so. We can see the compassion, care and love through the parents, but we can see it through the children in the way that they imitate their parents. We do not mean that parents should force careers and positions upon their children, but that there should be a general expectation of how the Lord will be working in ones children. This should encourage us to set up a good positive model so that our children will pass on those great things to others.
Take a look at Abraham, Isaac and Jacob’s lives. Note how they have disharmonious marriages and how this negatively affected their children. We can also note on a positive side how their faith in the Lord held firm. They held onto the land and the promises of the Lord.
We need to be cautious, though. Children will not only pass on the good but also the bad as they grow up. While we have time, we can confess our sins and have the Lord’s strength to change. This encourages even older children that have already been affected by bad modeling. If the parents have changed, they know they need to change also.
The clearer we are on these matters, the easier it is to go forward developing this purpose and sharing it with our children. “Do you know how our great God uses our family? He has used us to help poor people who live near us. Let me tell you about one family.” This sharing instills a great vision that goes beyond an individual perspective that is centered on the Lord’ s purposes rather than in money or position.
Pause for Reflection: What is the Lord doing through your life as a family? What gifts do you have? How does the Lord bring His grace to others through you as parents?

Positive Instruction

Although we have said it before in the seminar, we should mention it once more. We as parents are not just passing on negative admonitions. Truly they are necessary. Our children are not to lie. But we must go beyond this and tell them what good things they are to do instead! The more we can focus on the good things, all encompassed in that one command to “love our neighbor as ourselves,” the more we can instill a vision for the virtue that we want to build in our children.
These positive instructions become the child’ s road to walk on. A child cannot live by ignoring these things. They will wonder what positive things they should be doing. We should give them answers to that important question or they will look elsewhere. Let me give you an example. I just heard our 3-year–old crying because he wanted something that another brother had. I told him that he was not to cry to get things that he wanted. But after that, I went on and told him what I did expect.
I first got his attention to make sure he was listening. I told him that I expected him to share things with others and play nicely. This is how we ended our conversation. This is what I want him to remember.
Pause for Reflection: List the positive instructions that you have given to your child in the last week. Please remember that this can only be effectively done when the child can start to understand and reason, but we can start training ourselves!

Salvation among our Children

Every child needs to come to know the Lord. Remember that a child should respect both God and their parents. We can train even a non-Christian child to do this. But to love God and love others requires the power of the Gospel. Children are born with a sinful nature. They are sinners by virtue of being born to sinful parents. We parents are sinful because of our sinful parents. And it goes on and on this way until we go back to Adam. Paul summarizes it well in Romans speaking of Adam.
So then as through one transgression (Adam’s sin) there resulted condemnation to all men, even so through one act of righteousness (Jesus’ righteousness) there resulted justification of life to all men. (Romans 5:18)
When Adam sinned the whole human race was contaminated. All people everywhere need to be saved. Young children need to be saved too. People do not come to a point where they become morally responsible and then need to be saved. They are born sinners as it says above.7 The process of salvation is the same with all people, but special care is needed for children because they respect their parents and desire to please them. This desire to please the parents is not the same as being saved.
Sometimes we equate salvation with a decision. The problem with this is that there are different parts of a decision. A decision includes the mind, will and emotions. When a child feels he needs to please his Dad or his pastor, he might say that he wants to be a Christian or nod his head to their plea to be saved. This is probably just an emotional decision. They might not be saved at all. Instead we should look for other signs of salvation.
We should first speak clearly of their fallen state and need to be saved from the wrath of God. We need to point out the child’s sins to him. We do not do this accusingly but as a matter of fact. We should remind him just for that sin of lying alone he would go to hell. We are not exaggerating matters but just telling them the truth. Early on they will understand this and equate their guilt with the displeasure of God. We must not force them to say they are Christians. This does not change their heart.
We are looking for an awareness of their own sinfulness. We should see a repentant spirit about them. They should be asking questions about the Lord, heaven and hell on their own. Then we know that the Spirit of God is working. We can encourage the child to believe by saying things like, “I hope that you soon become a Christian. You wouldn’t want to live without the Lord.” Right now, my four youngest children, I believe, are not Christians. But they know I still love them. They hear how I pray for them to come to know Him. They know becoming a Christian is the best thing in life. I could easily convince them to say a sinner’s prayer but that does not save them. They need the Holy Spirit to convict them of their sin so that they would seek salvation and the cross.
Unfortunately the word ‘decision’ has become a replacement for ‘repent and believe in Christ.’ We need to return to that basis. Notice the power of God at work in salvation in the following verses.
I tell you, no, but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish. (Luke 13:5)

For our gospel did not come to you in word only, but also in power and in the Holy Spirit and with full conviction; (1 Thessalonians 1:5)

For they themselves report about us what kind of a reception we had with you, and how you turned to God from idols to serve a living and true God, and to wait for His Son from heaven, whom He raised from the dead, that is Jesus, who delivers us from the wrath to come. (1 Thessalonians 1:9-10)

Repentance is a spiritual conviction from God that a person’s sins are the most dreadful curse upon him and deserve the condemnation of God and thus seeks a way to escape from them.
When our children are trained right, we see a lot of good in them. Don’t think this is the same as salvation. It is not. In fact, it can lead to great deception if the parent believes it is the same. The parent will convince the child and the pastor that they are saved when they are not. The child will have the form of a Christian but not the heart.
Repentance and belief go together. The child must believe or know that Christ is their Savior. God will give them this faith. It is not the mere knowledge that Christ died on the cross for their sins but a deep confidence that this Savior indeed has saved them from their dreadful sins. Even the best of children under conviction know they are wicked sinners deserving judgment.
Pause for Reflection: Which of your children are saved? Have you seen them go through this repentance and belief stages?

Raising Godly Children

A parent should have goals of raising godly children. We should hope that in their childhood that they come to know God through the Lord Jesus Christ. We should also expect that they have a sense of love for God and the ways of God. They should develop regular personal devotions such as reading the Bible, praying and worshiping God.
A parent could insist that the children maintain these habits. We refrain from imposing them upon our children unless they come to know the Lord. We as Christian parents do these things but prayerfully wait for God to stir their own hearts. We want to see them respond to God not to us. They will see what to do by noticing us in our private devotion times. You will help them to have good routines so that they can learn to have regular devotions to seek God on their own.
The parent should carefully listen to their children’s prayers during family devotions to see if there are thanks, worship, asking for forgiveness and mission (praying for the needs and salvation of others). This is part of the instruction that a father can give. Family devotions is mandatory; personal devotions is to be something they express to the Lord on their own.
We want to see them respond to God not to us.
Our secular society has so shaped our concepts that many Christians read the Bible as a book rather than the Word of God. They do not even know the difference. They have not learned how to listen to God through their readings of His Word. As parents eagerly seek God in His Word, they will find Him and can share those experiences with their children. In this way, they pass down their spiritual inheritance.
In summary, we should remember that a godly child is more than a virtuous child or well-trained child. A godly child has those qualities, but he also has a great affection for God, His Word and His ways. We should pray, train and seek God’ s work in our child that they would love God from the heart and not only conform to His ways.
Pause for Reflection: Are your children godly? What makes you think that is so? Are you praying for them regularly for this?

Summary

There is no doubt that spiritual instruction stands as one of the most important aspects to parenting. How tragic that it goes as the most neglected aspect of parenting! May God give each parent grace to be faithful. May He call up fathers who will be bold in their stand to train their children in the love and ways of the Lord.

—— Parenting Principles ——–

* God expects the fathers to take charge of spiritual instruction in the home.
* The whole family is commanded to love God with all their heart soul, mind and strength.
* The father’ s love, obedience and zeal for the Lord will greatly impact the family.
* The wife assists the husband in carrying out his responsibilities.
* There are two ways a father must instruct his children about the Lord: formally and informally.
* Family devotions are important and necessary to train the children and inspire them in their worship of the Lord.
* Parents should point out to their children their need and the way of salvation but wait for God to stir their hearts unto repentance.
* The parents should pray about each child’ s future and pray that as a godly child they would grow to fulfill God’ s purpose.

——- Questions ——–

1. Who is in charge of instructing the child in the Lord? Why?
2. In what two main ways is this person to carry out this spiritual duty?
3. Why is it that many children leave the Lord?
4. Is living a good life the same as being saved? Why or why not?
5. Why are family devotions so important?
6. What are three things that should occur during family devotions?
7. Should parents press their children to have personal devotions? Why or why not?
8. How should a parent learn to pray for his or her child?
9. What should a parent look for in the child when trying to discern whether a child is close to salvation?
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Biblical Parenting: 10 Tips for Fathers

 

 


Father and Son Walking

Several weeks ago at my church, my eyes were opened to a biblical passage.  It is one that I have read many times, but this particular sermon would cause me to view it in a whole new way.  What I had previously read as a general reprimand to a wayward church now appeared as a model for parenting.  With Father’s Day fast approaching, I think this is an important verse for Dad’s to study.  That passage in question is from 1 Corinthians 4:14-21 and was written by Paul to the church in Corinth:

“I do not write these things to make you ashamed, but to admonish you as my beloved children. For though you have countless guides in Christ, you do not have many fathers. For I became your father inthrough the gospel. I urge you, then, be imitators of me. That is why I sent you Timothy, my beloved and faithful child in the Lord, to remind you of my ways in Christ, as I teach them everywhere in every church. Some are arrogant, as though I were not coming to you. But I will come to you soon, if the Lord wills, and I will find out not the talk of these arrogant people but their power. For the kingdom of God does not consist in talk but in power. What do you wish? Shall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness?” [1 Corinthians 4:14-21 ESV]

The passage was written by Paul in the context of correcting the church at Corinth as was the entire book of 1 Corinthians.  However, viewed in the light of Paul’s statement that, “I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel” we can also view this passage as a biblical model of what fatherly confrontation, correction and discipleship should look like. Before I work through the meat of this verse, and what it means to effective parenting, I would like to thank my Pastor Steve Benninger for his insights into this passage which opened my eyes to it’s to parenting in the first place and also for his faithfulness in preaching the Word of God.  For purposes of this article, I have adhered to Pastor Steve’s original exposition and added my own additional detail and thoughts for each point.

So, what does this passage teach us about how to parent, specifically father, our children?  What is this biblical model?  Pastor Steve identified 10 keys from this passage which I would like to expand upon:

1. Affirm Your Love

Paul writes that the purpose of this passage was to admonish his readers as beloved children. Any correction or guidance that we give to our kids must be done from a position of, and rooted in, unconditional love.  We must never correct out of anger or a selfish desire that our kids would act a certain way to make our lives easy.  The purposes of biblical correction is not to change behavior but to disciple our kids to become more like Jesus.  A key part of this pursuit is your kids knowing that you love – not because of what they have or haven’t done, but because they are your kids.

Your child’s realization of your love for them is not something that just happens on its own. You must be intentional and it to make certain that your kids know that you love them. Tell them you love them on a daily basis. Show them how you love them through both your words and your actions. If your kids do not know and accept that you love them unconditionally, then any effort on your part to correct them will be met with suspicion and ultimately failure.

Unconditional love is not based on your kids performance or abilities. Unconditional love manifests itself regardless of what your kids have or have not done. Unconditional love must be consistently professed and demonstrated to your kids in both good times and bad. Unconditional love should exist and be demonstrated regardless of how you feel. Biblical love is not a feeling, it is a choice!  Any discipline or correction that you dole out as a parent must be rooted not in your own selfish desires but in a deep rooted and unconditional love for your kids.

2. Avoid Shaming Your Kids

Paul begins this passage with an explanation that his purpose was not to “write these things to make you ashamed.” Paul did not wish to shame the Corinthians, but to help them see that they were living in a way contrary to God’s will.  Likewise, shame has no place in biblical correction as a parent. Your goal as a parent when it comes to correcting your children is to lead them into a life consistent with God’s will for them. Consequences, especially consequences which flow naturally from the action in question, are effective means of accomplishing this.  Shame is based in fear.   The Bible tells us that “There is no fear in love.” [1 John 4:18 ESV].  Accordingly, shame should not play any part in correction which must be based in love.  Not only is shame unbiblical, it is also ineffective.  Although you might see short term behavioral changes when you shame your kids, there will be no long lasting internal transformation.

3. Give Warnings

Paul indicated that he was writing to the Corinthians “to admonish” them as his beloved children.  To admonish means to “reprove gently but earnestly” or “to counsel against something to be avoided” or “to remind of something forgotten or disregarded, as an obligation or a responsibility.”  Paul was not writing to bring down the hammer, but to warn the Corinthians of what would happen if they continued in the current course of action.
As fathers, we must do the same thing with our kids.  By warning, or admonishing, I do not mean that we should give them the classic, “If you do that again you’ll lose such and such until kingdom come.”   These threats tend to be hollow and effective.  The idea of admonishing or warning or to alert kids of the consequences of their actions.  To the extent that those consequences flow naturally from the action in question, our role as fathers is to alert our kids to those consequences.  Obviously, one of our roles as parents is also to impose consequences where needed, and we should warn our kids that these are coming as well.  Any consequences which you impose should be made clear before the action and must be followed through on.  Warnings serve to help steer our kids in the right direction.

4. Establish Your Authority

Paul reminded the Corinthians that “though you have countless guides in Christ, you do not have many fathers” and used this to establish his authority to correct the recipients of his letter.  When it comes to parenting, our authority comes directly from God.  He has given us the stewardship over, and responsibility for,  his children.  With that responsibility, he has given parents authority over their children [Exodus 20:12 ESV].  As parents, it is beneficial to help our kids understand God has given us both authority over them and responsibility for them.  As agents of God, we must exercise that authority consistent with God’s will.  By explaining to our kids that we are acting under the authority of God, we also set an example for them of submitting to our authority.

When we step outside the authority and will of God in parenting, we ultimately teach our kids that they should defy authority as well.  We establish our authority based on the Word of God, but we must also demonstrate our adherence to God’s Word in other aspects of our life.  We can’t, for example, tell our kids that they must submit to our authority because it is given by God on the one hand, and on the other hand disregard God’s authority in our own lives.

5. Press the Gospel in Deep

Paul became a father “through the gospel,” and as earthly fathers, one of principle goals in life should be to also fill the role of spiritual father in our children’s lives “through the Gospel.”  In order to do this, the gospel must be the center point in our lives and out families.  We must strive to make it central in the lives of our children as well.

The gospel is the Good News of Jesus Christ, and that Good News is recorded in God’s Word – the Bible.  In all that we do, we must instill a biblical worldview in our kids.  We must teach them, and demonstrate for them, that the Bible holds the answers and guidance for all of lives questions.  We must make our choices based on the Bible and show them how to do the same.

The cross itself must be central in our lives and our families.  This means far more than just wearing it around our necks or hanging it on the family room wall.  We must rejoice in the cross of Christ.  We must take our sin to the cross of Christ, and we must praise God for the cross.  Our children must know, at their very core, that Christ died not just for all sin, but for their individual sins.  They must understand that God wants to change them from the inside out by the power of the cross.  They must realize that their sins are washed white as snow by Christ’s blood shed on the cross.  Yes, in order to confront and correct our children, we must remind them 1) that they are forgiven by God and 2) the price that he paid to wash those sins away.

6. Urge Your Kids to Imitate You

Paul was not shy about encouraging the Corinthians to be imitators of him.  Later in this same book (1 Corinthians 11:1), Paul would expand on this thought as he encouraged the Corinthians to “be imitators of me, as I am of Christ.”  Paul was not exalting himself but merely stating that he purposefully led his life in such a way that others could imitate him in following Christ.

As fathers, this must be our goal as well.  We must lead lives worth imitating and then encourage our kids to do just that.  Kids will learn what they live.  If a father insists that his child does not lie than turns around and cheats on his income taxes, his children will not learn from his father’s words but by his actions.  Setting an example includes two distinct aspects.  First, we must aspire to live a godly life worthy of following.  We have to set the tone and example for our family.  In order to do this, we must rely on the power and providence of God.  Secondly, we must accept that, this side of heaven, none of us are perfect.  We all make mistakes, and it is important that we be willing to admit those mistakes to our kids.  We should not be under any delusion that our kids think we are perfect in the first place.  After about the age of 7 or 8, that phase of life is long gone.  Our kids know that we are far from perfect.  We must be honest with them and talk about our mistakes.  This transparency teaches them that it is OK to make mistakes.  The important thing is how we handle those mistakes.  We model for them honesty, transparency, and taking our sins to the cross of Christ.  We also give our kids a chance to learn from our mistakes and, hopefully, to avoid them.


7. Make it a Team Effort

In his letter to the Corinthians, Paul wrote, “That is why I sent you Timothy, my beloved and faithful child in the Lord, to remind you of my ways in Christ, as I teach them everywhere in every church.”  What can this possibly mean in terms of raising kids?  Paul needed help.  He could not be everything the Corinthians needed, and he sent Timothy to them to reinforce what he had already taught.  Likewise, as parents we should get other adults involved in the lives of our children who will reinforce what we are already teaching them.

Most parents have experienced that moment when another adult says something to their child, and the child just seem to get it.  Never mind that we have been saying the same thing for years.  There’s just something about hearing it from another adult that makes it understandable and more palatable to our kids.  I remember when I started coaching my oldest son’s coach-pitch baseball team.  One of the other fathers from the team was helping me, and we agreed between us that I would correct his son and he would do the same for mine.  Both kids took the correction and advice much better coming from another adult than they would have coming from their Dad.  The system worked well for the summer, and I missed him the next year when his son wasn’t on my team.

It is important to find other adults that you trust to speak into the lives of your children.  Needless to say, since our principle goal as parents is to instill a biblical worldview into our children, we must take care to find adults that will speak that same worldview to our kids.  We must find people we trust that we can surround our kids with to reinforce what we have already been teaching them.  This is one of the reason that it is important to live our lives amongst a strong Christian community.  Things like Bible studies and small groups are a great way to expose your kids to other adults.

8. Stay Involved

Paul writes to the Corinthians that “…I will come to you soon.”  As parents, we must intentionally stay involved in the lives of our children.  Some parents, especially Dads, faced with daunting to do lists, lack of understanding and an increasing sense of failure in parenting simply decide to check out of their kids’ lives.  I think this is particularly true as kids grow older and move into the teen years.  This is the worst thing you could possibly do both to yourself and to your kids.

We must stay involved in our kids lives.  What do they like?  What don’t they like?  How are they doing in school?  Who are their friends?  What are their dreams?  How is their relationship with God?  These are all critical questions, and in order to stay involved, we must stay on top of these and other aspects of our kids’ lives.  In order to do this, we must invest the time it takes in building relationships with our kids.  Our society has fallen victim to what I believe is a lie directly from Satan that says quality time is better than quantity time.  We convince ourselves that it is not the amount of time that we spend but the quality of that time.  If we turn off our blackberry for a couple of hours, we reason, that should take care of spending time with our kids at least for a week or so!

In order to know our kids, and stay involved, we must have both quality and quantity time.  Indeed, if you ask kids about their regrets as they get older, few will say they wish the time they had spent with their dads had been “better” time.  Thousands upon thousands, though, will tell you they wish they had spent MORE time with their Dads.  If you are a father, put in the time and the effort to know your kids.  If God knows every hair on your head, the least you can do is know who your kids’ friends are!

9. Give Choices

Paul asked the Corinthians, “What do you wish?”  He gave them a choice.  As fathers, we should do the same with our children.  In small things and big things we should present our children with choices and let them decide.  More importantly though, we must equip them to live with the consequences of those choices.  Most parents want their kids to grow up to be leaders and not followers.  Part of being a leader is the ability to make a choice and deal with the consequences thereof.  If we do not allow our children to practice that skill when they are young, they will be ill equipped to handle choices as an adult.

My son rarely buys anything without experiencing some degree of buyer’s remorse afterwards.  As soon as we let him buy something, he always wonders whether he should have saved his money, or worse yet, he finds something shortly after the purchase that he wishes he had saved his money for.  From time to time, these episodes result in tears and a lament that would rip your heart apart as a parent.  However, in those moments, we must force ourselves to let him live with his choices.  If we give in and purchase the second item for him to heal the pain and stop the tears, he never learns how to take ownership of his choices and accept responsibility for them.  If we don’t give kids choices, and allow them to live with both the positive and negative consequences of those choices, they will not learn how to be responsible.

10. Customize Your Approach

Paul said to the Corinthians, “Shall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness?”  Some who read that letter needed Paul to come with a spirit of love and likely reacted to Paul’s written correction positively in order to ensure that he would come in gentleness.  Others, no doubt, needed the stern rod of Paul before they were willing to submit to his authority.  In a similar way, we must tailor our approach to correction and discipleship for each of our individual children.


I tell people all of the time that one of the things that has amazed me so much as a parent is how each of my kids can be so alike in some respects that they seem like twins and so different in other respects that it seem impossible that they share the same DNA.  If you’re a parent, it will not surprise you to find out that each of your kids is different.  They are unique creations of God, and it is naive of us to think that correction and discipleship will look the same for each child.  What may be the best approach for one child may be the worse possible choice for another.  We must customize our approach based on the personality, experience and emotional needs of each child.  Of course, this entails knowing them and not checking out of their lives as we discussed earlier.  Furthermore, children change over time as they mature and get older.  We must customize our approach not only for each child but also for the same child based on their age and maturity level.  In order to accomplish this, we must become a student of our kids.  Watch them, talk to them, study them, and then spend some time intentionally coming up with a plan for the best approach for each child when it comes to correcting and discipleship.

As we raise our kids to know and follow Jesus Christ, these ten principles laid out by Paul in a letter to a church in Corinth almost 2,000 years ago will serve as guidelines.  As we move towards Father’s day, examine your own life and your relationship with your kids.  Which of these areas do you excel in?  What are the areas where you can use a little more work when it comes to relating to your kids?  How can you improve in those areas?  Make a list and take it to God in prayer.  He is the ultimate father, and his desire is that you would be a good father as well.  Happy Father’s Day!

In addition to writing for Ministry-to-Children.com, I also have my own little blog.  For more articles like this, and articles on children’s ministry, please check out Dad in the Middle and let me know what you think.

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DADDY COME HOME

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The Yeshiva Boys Choir – “Daddy Come Home”

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A Letter from Heaven ~For All Fathers

fathers-dayMy sons of whom I love dearly; you are the foundation of the family, and I have assigned to you a specific challenge to accomplish in this modern-day world. Your position will be challenged not so much by your own children, but by the very societal structure of this disoriented day.   With the structural breakdown of traditional families and roles so clearly undefined, it has left a door open for displacement to set in.  Your challenge will be a difficult one, but I have extended to you an extraordinary grace for this season of uncertainty.

I, your Lord God have placed inside you an exceptional heart of courage and strength. I have given you the wisdom and discernment to stand as loving fathers, even if the world calls it unfashionable.  I made you in my image to be a reflection of my heart, and my heart is love for all mankind. 

 Through our love we can conquer the deception of the spirit of this age and restore the position of the patriarch to the headship of the family.  I designed your role to be a shield for your family; you are their protector.   Your eyes are to watch over them and guide them along the path.   Your words should always be spoken with the truth; as a Shepherd.  The actions of your life will be expressed in your children, so remember to act accordingly.  I gave you arms to wrap them in love and to be an extension of my benevolent hand.  Your mind is as one with your Heavenly Father, renewed by the Spirit of my Adoring Son.  Impart into them my Kingdom Knowledge and they shall not fall by the  wayside.

 Govern with Compassionate Authority and direct them toward their eternal destiny.   Time is valuable and your wisest investment is your children, they are your legacy; both your natural and your Spiritual children.  Fathers of today are a blessing to a misguided generation, in a world needing  restoration.

 What the world sees as an archaic role is a rebellion against the Fatherly position.  Their rebellion is against your Heavenly Father and they are in need of a Father’s love the most.   I am your Lord thy God, I am the same as I was when I raised up Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.                                                                                Fathers; you are my sons whom I have created to be respected, and honoured. My Spirit dwells in the heart of the patriarchs; even in this modern-day.

       ”Happy Father’s day”                                                                             ~Love Your Father in Heaven ♥ 

Written by Cindy Livingstone; inspired by the Holy Spirit for all of God’s Fathers,  both in the Natural and Spiritual….. Thank you for surrendering your hearts. Much Love to you on your Special Day.

   ~C.A. Livingstone ©2013

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